The Truth Revealed! How Attorneys Actually Prove Narcissistic Abuse in Court

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hey everyone let’s talk about how to
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actually prove the narcissist is a
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narcissist in court yeah I know what’s
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on your mind you are thinking it’s not
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fair it’s not fair how do they get away
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with it everybody’s buying the
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narcissist lies they’re lying in court
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they’re lying to the judge and
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everybody’s believing it and you feel
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like all you’re doing is spending money
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and you’re having to go to this lawyer
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and that lawyer and this lawyer and how
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are you ever going to get ahead right I
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know I’ve heard it all because I’m a
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lawyer and I’ve been doing this for a
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long time and I’m going to tell you in
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this video how lawyers can actually
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prove narcissist abuse in court
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all right I’m Rebecca zong I’m the
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bestselling author of the book slay the
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bully how to negotiate with a narcissist
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and when and if you haven’t already
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subscribed here I invite you to do that
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now so that you don’t miss out on the
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powerful strategies I share to help you
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reclaim your power and not just beat the
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narcissist now but actually get your
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freedom back get your life back and
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become the best version of yourself all
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right so it’s vital to understand what
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the breakdown is so so many people feel
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like the court system is stacked against
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you and in a way it kind of is and and
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the reason why I’m going to tell you
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that is because it’s not built to get
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punitive damages for you if a person’s
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been a narcissist that’s not its job its
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job especially you know if you’re in a
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divorce situation is to divide assets or
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to give people their kids give people
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time with their kids that’s the job or
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you know if there’s a a spousal support
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claim then okay even if it’s a business
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dispute maybe it’s a probate litigation
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claim or maybe it’s something else right
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defamation what whatever it is the job
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of the judge is to apply the law
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agnostically to go okay what statute
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applies here and let me see how it’s
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been interpreted by case law and move on
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and you’ve got a judge who more than
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likely has way too many cases on their
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docket and more than likely has heard
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everybody on their and their brother and
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sister you know on the whole freaking
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planet at this point everyone’s a
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narcissist now so they don’t want to
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hear about that that’s on one side of it
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and and by the way judges are overworked
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Under Paid Maybe highly esteemed sort of
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you know at this point I don’t even know
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they’re government workers that’s what
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they are they get paid the same
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regardless of what you decide to do
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they’re not getting paid more there’s no
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bonus involved they do get
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evaluated based on how quickly they get
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cases off their docket or how often they
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get appealed if they are appealed too
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often or things happen
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you know they’re not going to get
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reelected or reappointed you know
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depending on how it is that they got
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that position in the first place they’re
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not lifetime appointees like the Supreme
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Court the US Supreme Court right if
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they’re looking to stay in that job for
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a long period of time then they may just
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choose the safe route there’s a lot at
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play politically for the judge as well
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so you got to think about that that’s
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one side of the equation so you know
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they might just take the safe route and
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go you know it’s easier for me to just
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see what’s going on here okay apply the
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other side of it is from your
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perspective let’s say it’s a divorce
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situation what you may be coming into
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this as hey I got married for life and I
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expected that this was going to be my
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life I signed up to be married to a
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person who I thought was going to be the
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love bomb version and they turned out to
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be the devil from Hell the worst
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possible thing ever and I didn’t expect
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that and somebody’s got to pay
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somebody’s got to make up for this to me
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I want somebody to help me and so
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there’s this disconnect here and so you
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know you may be going hey somebody’s got
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to make this up to me well you can’t
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look to the judge to do that because the
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judge’s job that’s the judge’s job so
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what you need to do is figure out how
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you’re going to present this to the
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judge to the court in a way that they’re
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going to care because if you don’t then
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that’s where you fall short from a
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divorce perspective there’s something
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else that is really important for you to
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understand and that is that there is a
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big huge myth out there and that is
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that no fault means that fault never
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matters and that is flatly wrong because
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no fault just means that you don’t have
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to prove fault in order to get a divorce
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in the old days you had to prove grounds
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like abuse or adultery nowadays you
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don’t you just have to say that the
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marriage is irretrievably broken or
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something like that but fault matters
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all the time you can say that somebody
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has been a a horrible parent you can say
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that somebody’s wasted assets you can
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say that somebody’s been a liar and then
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that will be taken into
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consideration depending on what the
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statute provides and that’s where you
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look at the terms of your statute and
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that’s when you start speaking the
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language of the Court that’s how you get
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the judge to care does this make sense
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if this makes sense give me a yes in the
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comments this is where you build your
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connection between what you care about
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and what the judge is going to care
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about now how are you going to do this
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you can’t obviously just come in and say
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the things that you want to say because
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then it’s just your word against the
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other person’s word you’ve got to have
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proof what’s your proof your proof is
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going to be in your documentation your
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documentation is going to be your
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detailed records it could be emails it
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could be texts it could be Witnesses it
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could be videos there’s a number of
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different things it could be but you
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want to keep detailed records of
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everything all interactions with that
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narcissist dates times specifics it
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could be voicemails anything that
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demonstrates their behavior I’ve had
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people keep meticulous records and then
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those things end up being summaries you
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can keep timelines timelines end up
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being beautiful you think that you have
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it in your head but when you start
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laying it out and you start to see what
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it is on paper or on your screen or
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whatever it is nowadays you will get to
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see patterns it is those patterns that
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end up being the gold for you because
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they never think that you’re going to
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keep track when they say hey I’m Mr Dad
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I’m Mr dad and then when they ask for a
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change in the schedule 50% of the time
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in a four Monon period it becomes gold
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but you’ve got to document it you
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document
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behavior and that where you have
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co-workers where you have piano teachers
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you have whoever it is that helps you
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because it paints a comprehensive
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picture of the environment of the
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community of everything that’s been
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going on because you got to understand
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the judge walks out they don’t know you
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and a lot of times all they see is the
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reaction from you because you know what
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they do they bait you they trigger you
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and then the narcissist goes oh there’s
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the crazy one over there there see I’m
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the calm wonderful one you see that I’m
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I’m the one who is nice and wonderful
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your honor and the way they do it is
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just so manipulative and you know that
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right so you have to establish patterns
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of behavior the other way that you can
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do it if you can afford it is bringing
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in experts thirdparty neutral experts
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for forensics it could be a custody
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evaluation it could be for a LIF style
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analysis for income or purposes of
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support it could be for business
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valuations but the more that you can
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have those third-party neutral
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evaluators the better it is you better
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make sure it’s somebody that you’re
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going to trust is going to do a good job
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I’m always really careful about that
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often times I also like to use
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technology to my advantage digital
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Communications you know keep things in
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real time it’s really really helpful if
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you think you’re going to go back and
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recreate you know it’s just not helpful
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you want to stay organized in real time
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have an organizer for your cases have an
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organizer for your timeline I would have
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a coach I train coaches I have coaches
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that are available to help you I have my
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programs that help you I have all kinds
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of a sweet of resources for you if you
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want a resource to get you started
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that’s free go to my free Crush my
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started there you definitely want to
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have a suite of tools resources people
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who are going to support you because
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obviously they’re going to Gaslight you
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going to light you up with litigation
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they’re going to ignore your court
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orders they’re going to ignore your
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attempts to get Discovery I mean I would
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definitely use the penas where you can
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because they’re going to give you half
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replies and they’re going to make you
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work for everything make it as expensive
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as possible and and then make sure it’s
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your fault I mean you know everything’s
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going to be a a a thing and you want to
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have a good lawyer not to rely overly
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rely on because you just want to use the
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lawyer for just the parts that you need
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which is just present the law present
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the case everything else you want to
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organize you want to be driving the bus
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and you want to know what you’re doing
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that’s where I come in to help you with
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that through my programs because I’m
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here to help you save your money put it
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in your pocket so proving narcissistic
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abuse can be daunting but not really
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because they are very simple to
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understand they there’re simple
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creatures to understand they’re
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difficult to deal with but they’re
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simple to understand so remember you’re
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not alone and don’t try to do this alone
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that’s how you can prove narcissistic
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abuse I have helped people win they only
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win if you give it you absolutely can do
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this you have to believe it you must
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believe that you can do it that’s how
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you you start if you think you’re going
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to give up up and you think that you’re
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going to lose they have you the minute
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that you think that they have you so
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don’t give them that satisfaction so if
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Bell remember you have the power to
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reclaim your life and Thrive there’s
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still going to be narcissist you’re
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going to thrive you’re going to move on
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and you’re going to live your best life
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you’re going to negotiate your best life
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and the next video that you’re going to
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watch to help you do that is attorney
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