How to Instantly Turn Trauma into Joy with Equinox Founder Lavinia Errico

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and then about 3:00 in the afternoon it dawned on me I’m out of that cloud that gray cloud
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I literally started crying oh my gosh I was like I couldn’t believe it I I was
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like it’s as if this Shadow this sadness this hurt this pain this betrayal like
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everything it was as if it just flew on me mhm and I thought wow the only thing
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different was that I was doing this every day for 20 minutes it’s almost like an exorcism or something exactly
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exactly it was exactly what it
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[Music] was welcome to another episode of
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negotiate your best life I’m so excited to have you here so for everybody who’s
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listening this is levinia ero who is one of the founders of E quinox which is
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literally one of the most forward gems it really became one of the
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biggest brands in the world and you were really instrumental in taking it
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to really being one of the most amazing brands in the world because it really
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supported women and it really became uh a a a woman
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supported JY I mean as far as what it did as far as lifestyle and and that’s you you are
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Grace you are power and you are Brilliance but everything about you
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maintains femininity and and maintains strength but also Grace and femininity
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at the same time and Brilliance and it it’s like just to know you it’s
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everything in in one and the gym is really
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a culmination of you and you started it with your brothers but it wouldn’t be
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what it is without you and so I’m so
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grateful to be able to share you with our community because you’ve
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also gone through a lot to be where you are today
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yeah well thank you Rebecca for having me here I um I love sharing my story and
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all different little parts of it and uh you know the interesting thing about Equinox it was really was myself and my
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two brothers you know we um we had a lot of magic that happened in creating
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something that we were all so passionate about and I think that was one of the um
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the strong suits of it and it was a place that females that women could come to
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and feel really safe and feel seen and feel um like we were creating
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programming for them which wasn’t always the case in in gyms it was you know
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rough and Men throwing weights on the floor and a little bit and ours wasn’t
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like that it was really a place where and I’m not sure that when we were creating it that that was our vision
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we just wanted to create a place that we all wanted to work out at right and um
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and it was a place that just had um a little more sophistication in a gym um a little bit
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more manners if you would a little bit more cleanliness and hygiene and yet
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great classes and wrapped with a lot of style you know to have that stylish
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feeling um so yeah it was it was was amazing creating that um and still
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watching how it’s developed once we sold and gosh you know it’s exciting when you
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see um something that you birthed that so many years later can still be
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relevant like Beyond relevant like sometimes my brother my one brother and I have a twin brother and we’ll go into
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some of the gyms and we’ll be like wow if we still own this would we still
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doing this like this like some of like got to let go no no we let go but we kind of laugh because we’re like you
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know I think we would have changed that by now I think we would have evolved in a different way but again you know
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they’re doing a great job it’s amazing I I know but you really revolutionized
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yeah the industry yeah I don’t it wasn’t even just the industry I think we
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created the whole Wellness craze like I remember when we were sitting in a room whiteboarding the center that we were
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opening and we were trying to figure out what to name it and it was like the longevity Center
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and the anti-aging Center and you know and then we were white borning everything we were and everything we
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weren’t and it was like oh it’s a place you come to to preventative it was like preventative medicine and and then yeah
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it prevent you from getting ill and then somebody was like what’s the opposite of illness and somebody was like wellness
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wellness and we were like is that even a word yeah I mean is that even a word
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today that’s a trillion doll business it’s a category that’s like it was not a
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category you know yeah you know 25 years ago um so it’s so interesting like when
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I look of where it’s all involved it’s amazing I mean it’s so amazing to see
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like where it is I mean today I would say that Wellness longevity and fitness
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are in probably the top three of what people what our future is going to be
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about you know AI for sure and then that I think you know it’s Ai and Longevity
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fitness health mental health emotional health spiritual health emotional health
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physical health probably Financial Health and Sexual Health right but all
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of that so health I mean years ago that was not the way it was like we have come
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so far um for the way people are are showing up to take responsibility for
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their wellbeing so far I mean I remember when I first got out of law school it
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was like 99 2000 and I moved to Naples Florida and I was talking about yoga and
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people were like oh oh my God that’s like Hari Krishna you know people thought that was
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yeah you were joining a call to crazy crazy stuff and that was just not even
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20 something years ago I mean that was still crazy stuff was yoga so I mean
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times have really really changed so I want to talk about your experiences I
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mean you didn’t come from you know money you didn’t come from you know a lot of things and but you’ve dealt with crazy
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toxic people along the way I me you’ve had to fight for a lot of what you’ve
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achieved I mean you’ve been a girl in a boy’s world you came from a big family I
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mean you’ve it’s not like you sit here and you go well you know it was all handed to me I you know here I am I mean
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you you’ve had to fight for a lot of what you’ve had and even
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once you know you you you sold Equinox you’ve had I mean just because you have
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money doesn’t mean that there’s no more storms no you still as long as we’re breathing right there’s going to be
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storms that are going to come right you know it’s interesting because my little niece was visiting me this weekend and
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she did she’s a teen and I I um I encouraged her to do this personal
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development program this um this weekend and I went to the graduation to watch
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these young people graduate and it touched my heart because I was like wow
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it’s so amazing to see these young people working on themselves which one
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was it it’s called Insight seminars okay I just because I just finished Master training MIT oh I know MIT yeah so
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amazing yeah well Insight is in that same genre um from what I understand
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because I haven’t done n but I’ve done the entire a curriculum at Landmark um this one is a little more heart-
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centered MH you know so they really bring you back to a lot of times like really connecting to your heart but it
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was just so beautiful to listen to these young teenagers talk about taking
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responsibility and what that looked like yeah and you know that my family’s drama
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is not my drama like I just have to be clear on what my Integrity is
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how I show up for my life how I have boundaries for my life and oh I’m just see that go wow to
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learn that at that age I wish I had that at 17 years old you know to really have
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that kind of training I mean it’s just unbelievable unbelievable that we have
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that today you know because we didn’t have that you know when I was 16 years old um and life in some ways life was
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simpler and in other ways it was more complicated because you know if somebody
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was having therapy in those days it was because you were crazy crazy you were
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just crazy nobody went to therapy to have better communication nobody went to
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th like in those days you were literally practically getting the shock treatment you know you were there was so much
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shame around so much shame so much shame around it and you know today it isn’t it’s part of our culture
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you know it’s part of our culture too and even for people that possibly aren’t
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can’t afford to be in ch the they the Church offers so much stuff you know
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there’s really ways to get um really amazing and just you know what’s what’s
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online these days yeah you know some amazing TED talks and YouTube and
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there’s just it to access really good information on
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how to help with your mental emotional and psychological wellbeing is it’s just
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wonderful that it’s available so I would love for you to share some of the maybe
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the biggest struggles that you’ve had to overcome because my community’s had to
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overcome or or maybe they’re feeling really low they’re dealing with toxic people or they’re feeling really stuck
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because I want to talk about I get to move joy and I want to have you maybe
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talk about some of the things you know to the extent that you’re comfortable that you’ve had to deal with some of the
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biggest struggles some of the biggest difficulties that you’ve had in your life because I want people to know that
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you’re not immune no you for sure you know for me when I look
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at when I start understanding what it means means to be like even a healthy
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infant you know I mean when I look at the way my life started and by the way
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there’s no pity party like I believe I am the woman I am today because of the
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storms that I’ve had to climb through I know I would not nothing in my life
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happened to me it happened for me I know which by the way is why I just I don’t
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know even want to get to how you always stay so in such high vibration I I want
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to talk about that too because you’re just amazing how you always do that but
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I want people to see like how does she always do that despite the things that
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you’ve done definitely taken work so I say that like I was a prey my I told you
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I have a twin brother and we were in an incubator for six weeks and when you start learning about
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the research of you know being Tak away from your mom MH and in those days it
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wasn’t like they didn’t um I was like you know what you better rest these next
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six weeks because you’re going to be taking two twins home and life’s going
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to be you’re not going to get any sleep go and stay home and rest and you know
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my mom would say they came for maybe a half an hour a day yeah and the the
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hospital didn’t have in those days they didn’t know know what they know today today they have volunteers that come and
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hold the infants all day long and in those days they didn’t have that so you
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know here I was in an incubator for six weeks and um we know now we know that
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that is it’s it it’s creates a Detachment so that automatically starts
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a lot of issues you know but we didn’t know that you know but for me I have always been a
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little bit anxious even as a a young child you know when my parents weren’t
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there I would get afraid um so I think you know once I
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started learning about infancy how life starts in infancy
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I says wow that was a little bit of a rough start right um and then I had an
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aunt that was murdered when I was in fourth grade oh
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my God and she was um
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really like I would go to her house a couple weekends a month because she
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didn’t have any children and my mom had my mom had five kids at two and a half
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years oh my God cuz she had two sets of twins oh my gosh uh and then my youngest sister who’s just a year younger so six
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of us in four years and she always said I literally had five kids in diapers so
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she was very happy when my aunt would offer to take me for the weekend so I was very very close to her um so when
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she when that incident happened Not only was it
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devastating um because it was murder and as a young child at that
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age you just want everything to feel safe you know you just want life to feel
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like life is safe we’re all good and that I learned at a very young age that
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it’s not no it’s not and so and then I lost you know my aunt it’s call her
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auntie re who I was very very very close to so that created a lot of um
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deep uh more anxiety for me for sure and just
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sadness like a lot of sadness in my heart you know
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um and I just feel like
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that that energy was kind of threaded for me you know after that like yes I
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always you know my my happy place was dancing I love to dance and I feel very
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um very blessed that I always had that because that was my Escape you know and
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needless to say after my mom’s sister the situation my
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mom I I almost want to say never again was the same exactly the same I mean her
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father had already she was alone she was was that her only sister her only sister
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and both her parents had already passed passed so and she didn’t really come from she didn’t have a lot of cousins or
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anything like that wow so it was really heavy for my momh um I also watched my
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mom go from like a size 10 to a size 18
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in a year oh yeah so the transformation of that was
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huge um yeah and just it was more the the um
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erratic behavior that was associated with that you know um yeah as much as my
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mom is was always a force and I know I
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wouldn’t be the woman I am without my mom because there was so many I mean my mom first of all was um very successful
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when women in the 50s were not successful yeah you know she had a high
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position incorporating a female ret St mhm with the six kids no no this was
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before she had us mom actually the day she got back from her honeymoon they she
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got back she went back to work and they offered her even a bigger promotion and she was already like a district manager
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a regional manager which in those days was unheard of yeah in like
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19 um 59 to be a woman in corporate like that but she was a force so they offered
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her a promotion when she got back from her honeymoon and she was like actually I
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think I might be I’m hoping to be pregnant and they but she was 33 or 34
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and they said pregnant you’re too old Oh no you’re going to have a baby like we
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thought you were going to be a career woman the rest of your life and she was like I’m hoping to have a baby you know
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so it’s just interesting like she was already she carved out she was a force
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you know even the stuff she said to me she was like liia discipline hard work
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you know consistency do your best nothing else but your best and you can create
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whatever you want in your life as you did yeah that was like her like she
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didn’t make me believe because I was a woman that I couldn’t do that right where I saw a lot of my friends at the
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time they didn’t have that same belief system their belief system didn’t
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believe that they could create anything yeah oh I’m going to be a teacher because that’s what women do or you know
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they have your summer off and and that’s great but my mom somehow I don’t even
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sure if it’s her words or her energy she had an energy that was you could do
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whatever you want you put your mind to it you discipline you stay consistent you you know it was just embedded in me
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to to believe that so yeah so needless to say after just to bring it back to
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that after my aunt died my mom definitely lost a part of herself yeah
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yeah yeah and the anger became much more apparent like she just it was probably always there a
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little bit but she would just really kind of kind of lose it you know really oh
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yeah she was she was God bless her she was so many things about her I always
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like to talk about the amazing things you know about her but on the other hand she had a temper that was just you
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know you didn’t know what you were going to get at home you didn’t know what you were going to get at home oh okay you know so then then that also created an
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unsafety an unsafe environment yeah yeah no even before my aunt died like I cuz
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my mom she was already heat she had a lot of fire you know there was a lot of fire there I would literally in third
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grade run home from school climb through the window M and clean the
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kitchen oh so that when she got home from work M the kitchen was cleaned and
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they weren’t all cereal dishes all over the table okay just so that she would be
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calmer okay you know so this is like this anxiety there so now did that cause
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you to did that show up in your relationships as an adult like did you
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you find yourself attracted to somebody who was emotionally
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unavailable as um an adult you
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know I realized that I had a very hard time connecting
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with men trusting men now part of it could be because my aunt was murder by
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her husband who by the way was a doctor MH so I just
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had I had a hard time trusting and really connecting with men and the truth
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of it is when I really look back I when it came to like who I
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am I didn’t have a lot of confidence yeah I think what happens is we end
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up subconsciously picking people who are emotionally unavailable like cuz we’re
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it’s not like we want that but we end up I was emailable well yeah I mean I you
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realize you know you you mirror what who you are and I was clearly emotionally
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unavailable um I was for sure a pleaser pleaser I wanted to I wanted to please
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everyone MH um I very rarely spoke my truth yeah
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um and if I did if I got it in there I was kind of always having to figure out
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how to say it so you weren’t going to get mad I worried so much
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about what other the other people’s feelings like over the top to the point
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where I didn’t focus in on my own feelings yeah I would I would just kind
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of shove my feelings yeah to make other people happy yeah because you’re so
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afraid that that person’s going to leave yeah they’re going to leave they’re going to abandon you they’re going to um
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so yeah I definitely had a lot of that that anxious attached uh style right
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yeah so did that cause you to attract
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narcissistic people into your life
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I I think I’ve attracted all kinds of people for sure I mean I think they’re there I
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mean I’ve definitely had my share of people um who are a bit narcissistic um
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but I think I knew how to deal with that like I I could
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kind of I could work around them I felt like I had
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some Mastery yeah around it like but what’s amazing today is that I’m free
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Free like I have I have cut through yeah that well I
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mean it’s it takes knowing your worth takes knowing your worth and it also takes you know going through a lot of
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stuff and and staying staying in it staying in in your inside work right um
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doing the work if you say ohia you’re always positive or you’re always and
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when I look at the amount of work that I’ve done um and I constantly
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doing um and and even with that like you’re not I’m not perfect trust me I
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saw myself a couple years ago when somebody was really pushing my buttons pushing those buttons I mean
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it’s like I brought the Italian girl from New Jersey off the shelf I was like bringing her right out
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and then I had to go wait a minute you know what this has nothing to do with me this is
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their insecurity their ego their stuff like it’s not mine and it still hurt like and I had to
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stay in the the sadness of it cuz I was so
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hurt but it was easier for me to get angry and lash out at you and point a
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finger at you and even though a lot of it really didn’t have that much to do
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with me
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and yeah we sometimes I know for me being in the sadness is harder than
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being in the anger right it’s easier to be in the anger it’s easier like you’re
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pointing a finger it’s like but to be like wow I’m really like my I’m
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heartbroken you know I’m and I’m heartbroken that this has gone like that
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and I I always do this going a person I always go hey how am I responsible how
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like I’m always looking where am I out of Integrity here where am I some
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because it you know it takes two to tango but you know what I love about
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that I love that you just said that because the fact that you do that the
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flip of that is that you all also then get to be the cause and creation yeah of
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your life right so if you don’t say where can I take responsibility for this
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because if you’re in a victim mode right then you’re not causing creation exactly
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of your life I mean I have to admit I if I had to say what what
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are what are the energies that I lo the most it’s victim yeah like I don’t know
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why but when I hear people going into victimization the hair on my back goes
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up I really it’s like like I so the last
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person I ever want to do is do that to me so I really say okay how am I because
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you know there’s a saying that you know the road to Hell could be made on Good
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Intentions MH you know it could still be the good in intentions get you to hell
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so just because your intentions are good there’s still something misaligned you know and that’s what I look at like wow
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my intention was never for that to happen but it did and and how can I
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number one not do that again and number two how do I clean it up you know I’m
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always about getting in communication like I’m the queen of that yeah to a
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false to the point where I’ve had you know people say to me me hey you know what Lumia that works for you but that’s
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not working for me I don’t want to be in communication I talk it all out all the time I don’t want to talk to these
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people I don’t want to be in communication that’s your fantasy not mine and it kind of is especially when
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it’s like family or good friends or something well but some people can’t like if you’re talking about a
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narcissist or whatever like talking to them is really not a good thing it’s not a good thing and that’s what my um
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I have a mentor that I work with and I said well this one I’m going to avoid
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yeah and and at first I feel really bad about it and he goes you should and I’m
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like and he goes they’re dangerous and and I’m like okay um but
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leave it leave it alone I have a I I always say send them light but over
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there you know I I need more of that because I’m a little
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bit like everybody gets us everybody’s going to grow everybody’s going to evolve
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maybe it’s going to be different like I’m like a little bit of that like let’s give everybody another chance let’s and
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I do think that that’s a slippery slope and I do think that I have probably to
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have a better boundary on that for sure but like I said you know you’re just working on it you’re finding out
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yeah and you never stop growing like that’s the beauty of it right but I do I
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am seeing that now that there are certain situations and with certain
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people that you must love them from afar yeah send them light but over there yeah
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that’s what I say because if they’re not self-aware and they’re not willing to take responsibility then you know you
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just can’t do anything about them yeah I want to get to move Joy thank you because love it it’s just I am so
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blessed and grateful that I got to experience it with you teaching it it’s
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so incredible and so really what move Joy is it’s it’s really it’s movement
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with joy I mean it’s really is what it sounds like but you take ancient wisdom
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ancient power ancient sacred uh
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wisdom love energy and you put it together with exercise but it’s really
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it’s it’s a blend of all sorts of incredible breathing and movement and
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it’s just yeah it’s so incredible and so I’m going to have you talk about it but I
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want you to talk about how it came to be yeah and
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why you’re even doing this like why do you even me to do this now you’re like you’re like first of all you know I’m at
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a place in my life where I need to do this I can sit on the beach in Tulum um
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in C con one of my favorite places and just stay there and really enjoy my life
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um and I do incorporate that as well the truth is Rea I I never planned
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on building a brand that wasn’t in my like wasn’t in my thought process but I
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went through a really dark two years
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honestly probably the darkest almost the darkest two years of
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my life didn’t see it coming
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and I all the things that I was normally doing my meditation my gratitude you
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know um I had done you know my my
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journaling my connection just all that I was doing I was still doing some therapy
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some EMDR I was really trying to get out of it and the truth of it was it was
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like I couldn’t get out of this great Cloud I just couldn’t like every day I
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just I’m trying no I smile you know I have a saying fake it to make it you
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know I’m doing I’m with my crystals I’m doing my mantras I’m you know
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I went and did you know Joe dispensas I did my 30 days of the pineal gland yes
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I’ve done that too i’ done exactly all the way up to the thing and I did a 48
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days doing everything and yeah I’m getting a little better a little better but nothing I still had this cloud and
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you one of the doctors said you know I think we should put you on a little bit of an anti-depressant linia you know
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just to get you the other side and not that I’m against I just don’t do
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medication I haven’t taken so much as an A or an aspirin in you know 17 years
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like so for me to take something I really and I was almost kind of feeling
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like maybe this is going to be my new normal you know maybe my new normal is just going to be like in this Cloud
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because I couldn’t shake it and I
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uh I literally was coming coming walking to the bed one
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morning really early I gotten up at like 5:00 and I all of a sudden
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there was a pillow on the side of my bed and instinctively I ended up on my
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knees and I was just like praying I’m not I haven’t been I’m not a
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prayer like that I don’t pray like that like I always need myself more spiritual
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than religious but I just started crying and I was like God I have to turn this
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over to you I I I I need I I need help like please show me the way how am I
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going to get out of this Cloud that I’m in please God show me the way and and
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I’d lost a lot of weight I was you know about 20 PBS lighter and my doctor’s
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like we got to get this weight on your your estrogen levels are starting to
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tank your hormones are tanking us my nervous system was just so shaken like
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inside of my nervous system I could feel it my resting heart rate which is usually pretty low was high like I was a
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mess just really a mess and and I is it okay if I share
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that you had gone through a lot of different changes in your life at that point yeah I mean I you know it was just like I was going through I went through
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a divorce I was going through that I went through a financial guy that you know decided it was more important for
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him to make money than me make money and it wasn’t just about the money I was like I trusted this guy MH you know and
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then I had another situation with someone else who very close person to me
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who you know kind of went on the attack and accused me of horrible things and
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everyone he was you know talking to he was just saying these horrible things about me was just it was breaking my
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heart it was just painful like Beyond
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painful and so I I’m on my knees and I praying I in bed
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I keep kind of just praying one day after the next and I’m getting ready to go to sleep like three or four nights
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later and I hear move know God I don’t know who it was
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but I hear move and I come up and I go move where do you want me I thought he was saying move out of my house cuz now
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I was in in this big house by myself maybe I need to get out of the house maybe if I moved out of the house I would that
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was what I needed to do to change the energy right change what was going on so
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I was like but I love my house and I love my land and really like I’m sitting there talking to air I’m saying but I
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love it really you want me to move anyway next day or two days later I’m outside I have this big tree out in my
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backyard that I love and people make fun of me because I sometimes hug it I have for years I hug trees people coming and
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I’ve I’ve seen that tree it is a beautiful tree so so anyway but I’m sitting there and my music was on and
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it’s very interesting because to this day I don’t even know how this happened or why it didn’t it wasn’t premeditated
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I just got up and I started moving to the music and I started doing breath
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work that I know I studied for many years with an amazing teacher Chris Tai
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he’s unbelievable and I I love his breath work and I started doing his breath work yeah but while I’m moving
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doing the breath work while I’m moving and and it’s like sematic breath work well at first it wasn’t it was just more
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like while I’m moving and then I start praying while I’m moving God and doing
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affirmations and I am strong and you know and I’m just doing it and moving
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I’m a dancer so I put choreography together you know so I’m moving it I’m
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doing and I’m and I noticed about 20 minutes later I was like oh feel good
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I’m like yeah getting feel good I just oxygen into your cells yeah and then I
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started doing it every day every day I go outside I have my bring my music and
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I would just start moving moving affirming moving
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connecting visualizing visualizing I was visualizing my mind and my body strong
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and spiritful and joyful and love filled and my confidence and I just kept doing
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that I kept doing it and I was already teaching an online class to women more
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just in purpose you know I started it in uh 2020 when everybody was still in
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lockdown so I had already started that class but that class was like a boot camp class it wasn’t
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mojoy so and after about six weeks of doing this I got up one morning and took a
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shower got on with my taught my class came in did something and then about
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3:00 in the afternoon it dawned on me oh my God I’m
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out of that cloud that gray
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cloud I literally started crying oh my gosh I was like I couldn’t believe
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it I I was like I’m literally I it’s as
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if this Shadow this sadness this hurt this pain this betrayal like everything
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it was as if it just flew off [Music]
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me and I thought wow the only thing different was that I was doing this
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every day for 20 minutes it’s almost like an exorcism or something exactly
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exactly it was exactly what it was yeah I felt I felt like the old of inia but
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better than I’d ever felt you know like I just felt my
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nervous system felt strong my mind felt strong like I this was mind Fitness like
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this was mind Fitness I felt at my emotional body like everything just like
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you know just transformed so I kept doing that and then I started
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introducing it to the women that I was teaching this boot CL class too and they
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were like I love this new stuff you’re doing with like oh my God you just started like threading it in a little
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bit yeah I just started threading threading in adding it a little bit in the beginning okay and then doing in the
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beginning it was just the beginning and the end and then I would add a little bit more and what I was noticing was was
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they started coming more often oh the consistency got a lot better like oh I
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don’t want to miss CU I want that they liked it because they really liked it it wasn’t just this hard crazy workout with
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you know jump squats and jump lunges and all this stuff and now all of a sudden it was this movement and at the end they
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would get they were all on zo and they would come on they go lenia I feel so
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good I feel really really good and it just started to Blossom they
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started to invite more people they loved it everybody started to get a little bit more vulnerable we would stay on at the
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end and talk a little bit and people would share and all of a sudden it was a community that was being built before it
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was like everybody get on they leave and they got bye boom everything was changing they’re talking to each other
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they’re making plans you know because now things are opening up oh my God if I go to Florida I’ll come and see you
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relationships are happening when people going to New York they’re meeting up with the group in New York like I was
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going wow this is unbelievable you know really unbelievable what’s happening
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here and then um I started inviting some other people when they would say to me
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oh my God I came 15 pounds during Co or oh my god um and I’d say I do this thing
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online why don’t you see it it interests you and they were like God I love it
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it’s amazing so it happened so organically and it came through that and
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then about a year and a half ago maybe a little bit more yeah no
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about a year and a half ago one of uh I’m an an entrepreneur group and they
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were we were doing a mastermind and I ended up on the hot seat and I was like I don’t have any reason to be on this
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hot seat and they were like no we want to talk to you and they one of them was like why are you not creating this into
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a brand like you should make this into a brand like this you’re on to something here and I was just like I know what it
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takes I don’t want to work that hard because I know what it takes right at the time I’m thinking no like really
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start all over I have a little bit of moment of I’m too old to start over you
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know you have those moments and then I started to kind of do a little research and I started to talk to some you know
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strategists and people in the industry and I realized like wow there’s a lot of white space here for women over
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45 um in this way you know um there’s stuff out there but they’re not talking
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to them you know there’s nobody not nobody I’m sure there’s little pockets
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of it but really you know since Richard Simmons yeah like Richard Simmons was
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amazing because everyone was welcome every size every person like you didn’t
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have to look beautiful in your little you know two-piece outfit that’s why
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people led him to feel like you were part of the crowd and it wasn’t like you were celebrating you exactly the way I
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am right now yeah even if I ate you know a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken the day night before no shame we just love
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each other and we’re moving our body and I always loved that yeah loved that attitude and it really saddened me that
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nobody is doing that nobody is for everyone you know you know and then like
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I would watch women you know going into the gym and their 50s and 60s and you
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know i’ see them in the mirror the whole time they’re looking at their wrinkles and they’re grabbing their you know
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their middle and they’re and I’m thinking God the whole time they’re working out they’re literally just
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looking at every single thing on their body that they don’t like and I’m like that’s not a good way to work out we
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want to work out and be loving our body be like I am strong I am healthy I am
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aware I am so that the energy that’s going into your muscles while you’re building is positive it’s uplifting is
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feels good we’re not sitting there you know with the instructor who has you
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know a 12pack and is making you feel horrible because you’re not disciplined
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enough to have that you know what look at the blue zones when you look at the blue zones the those people living to be
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over 100 nobody has a six-pack yeah nobody looks like that yeah that’s not
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what it takes there’s so many other things other than that actually I us
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believe some of that when you’re ripped like that you’re not there’s actually
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things that are out of balance yeah I mean I saw that for myself when I got so thin my my hormone started plummeting
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you know I’m also not somebody that’s going to just juice myself up with tons of hormones I work with a homeopathic
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practitioner I work with a holistic doctor you know I’m not going to just take hormones until I really understand
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other things about the hormones you know so it was just yeah and it just kept
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growing and people so then I finally I did a beta we did the beta launch in
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January and I would say by November we’re going to be ready to have our
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formal launch so we’re yeah we’re doing it slowly because there’s just a lot of
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you know a lot of operations I didn’t realize honestly Rebecca that I was building an a tech company because
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that’s what happens when you build online I thought it so once I started understanding yeah I didn’t know that
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either when I got started but here I am right and so you have to deal and it
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takes a little bit more to get everything said and it was kind of funny because we onboarded like 40 women a
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couple weeks ago and I was like wow when you’re on boarding women over the age of
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50 and they’re not they’re not Tech sa it takes a lot of check support yeah so
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um but now we know like we you need a client relations manager who can walk them through exactly that’s what we’re
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doing so we have that maybe need more than one when bring on a certain amount
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but it’s like and you know the thing that’s so amazing is when they get it and they learn they feel so good like
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another thing it’s it’s another um you know another aspect of using your mind positive way so there’s
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so many there’s so many things you know we’re we’re starting to look at doing
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some in-person events oh yeah well we’re going to do one yeah yeah I would love to do one sure I’d love to do i’ love to
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do and actually I would love to offer all of your people a fre week to come
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and and try it out because you know when you release you know emotions have energy mhm and when
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that energy lives on your body yes I mean when that energy literally lives in
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your body when that hurt that pain that I mean I saw it firsthand what what that
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was doing to me oh it was running havoc on my body and I’m sure at some point if
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I didn’t address it I would have had an autoimmune cancel malignancy something
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totally it totally does it leads to you can’t think straight hair falls out it’s on your
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skin your body it runs Havoc so you want to have something like my first 50
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minutes of every class is called release so that’s all we’re doing yeah we’re releasing the energy and by the way
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you’ll it’s so good so you’re releasing that energy all of the emot
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you may not it’s like it it decreases your cortisol we had two weeks ago we did
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something with a um organization in New York and we did it on zoom and the woman
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who was spearheading it is really into her you know her all of her the the
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Apple watch and she’s always looking at her stress levels and this and that and
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she could not believe when she went and she looked at everything
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in 30 minutes there’s never been anything she’s ever done and she’s a runner that has brought it down so far
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so quickly love that so we know it works it probably like releases
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serotonin and all dopamine I mean you feel so good I mean the between the
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breath and the movement and we laugh and you know I’m even very deliberate on the music I don’t use music with words
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because I don’t want you to get out of your body I want you to stay in there I want you to stay in there when you’re
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doing it and every single movement that we make every movement has nothing’s in
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there for style or for fun it’s in there because it’s function I just I feel like
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I like to have fun I like things that are colorful as you can see I like
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things that are happy and colorful so I TR try to make it like a party yeah like I try to when we teach that class and
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it’s live we do have an on demand library but I really encourage be able to do it live um that it’s fun and
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they’ll say like I have butterflies my clients will say with me I have butterflies on my stomach the night
50:44
before your class oh all the classes not just mine I have other teachers on there I have an amazing gal from New York that
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worked for me for a long time Equinox and she’s amazing um I have another one starting who’s a functional medicine
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doctor who’s unbelievable like I’m I really am putting together such a
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amazing team of of humans and that really um they walk the walk you know
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they walk the walk of living a holistic life so good and and let me tell you as
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somebody who has participated in the class I just want to say to everybody these classes are you sweat and you feel
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powerful and you feel so good but it’s not like so rigorous that do like oh my God
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there’s no way I can keep up you know it’s it’s it’s it you can do these movements you can do it no it’s designed
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um I mean it’s designed for women you know 50 plus for our joints our
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ligaments our tendons and the I always say the movement is simple but not easy
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so you can make it as simple you can adapt and and I show you know all the
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modifications it’s so safe and at the end even if you’re not getting it I’m just just move just move move because
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you know the we have to move our bodies every day it’s to meet you where you are
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and and it’s there’s a no judgment Zone there like just it’s like for you to
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come for you for you to show up for you to have fun and and that’s what I love about it and the part the one thing is
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even not the exercise part because I I don’t even think of this as exercise but
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everyone should do the release part even if you have a yoga practice or you have
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a soul cycle practice or you have a boxing you should do 15 minutes of this
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I I do I do at 4 o’clock usually at the end of my day I I release my energy
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again so good so everyone should be doing the release part cuz that is yeah
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so important to release to be really aware of releasing that energy because
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all day long we’re bombarded with energy yeah we are bombarded with stuff that we’re reading online stuff we’re seeing
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on TV stuff that we’re hearing you know um I mean I just saw how freaked out
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everybody was last week after the the debate yeah I mean the energy I was like
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move Joy Mo the joy release that energy don’t want all that fear in your body
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you cannot have that that is going to cause illness anything that’s not serving you you know women have three
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quarters of all autoimmune are women autoimmune Y and they’re able to prove
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these days the science can prove that emotions are linked totally to
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autoimmune they absolutely are so we know that
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so this is a practice that helps you release and discharge the energy of that
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and it it’s it oh it just is so I mean if I don’t do it like one day like on
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Tuesdays I don’t teach and sometimes I would just you know go to I love Hot
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Yoga and I would just go do hot yoga and maybe get a hik in or ride my bike I
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left you out like at 4:00 I I know this is going to sound
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crazy but I look in the mirror and I look different oh yeah well I mean I can
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see you you glow you glow you you have this energy you have this vibrancy and I
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know for a fact that the reason why you attract so many amazing people into your
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life and so much goodness into your life is because you I I always say I cannot
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leave my thoughts unsupervised and and the reason why you have so much High
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vibration is be so much goodness is because you have you have so much High
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vibration in your thoughts I mean you attract I you know Wayne Dyer famously
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said you don’t attract what you want you attract what you are exactly and you attract who you the being now the
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beingness the beingness like that’s what and let me tell you that year when I
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went through that my beingness was not it was dull it was like I couldn’t get
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out of that so that’s how I know yeah that it does and I wasn’t attracting
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yeah good I was like just attracting more you know more negativity yeah you know I
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always say about your thoughts the same way we go into our closet and we just
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what dress we’re wearing and what jewelry we’re wearing and what sweater we’re wearing what shoes we’re wearing we have to have that we think about what
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our thoughts are for the day yeah like we really like we do these thought
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challenges with joy like and literally like I have this technique that I do
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that as soon as a negative thought comes in my mind I go cancel cancel cancel
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canel goodbye cancel but you have to sometimes do something jarring to get it
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to cancel like you have to do something that’s like it has to be like a little
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harsh yeah you know to let that go because you know even if that negative
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thought is fear yeah like you know um yeah I don’t want to get into that
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fear that’s not fears it’s not a high vibration no right so and sometimes
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there are things that we’re fearful of like you know there’s but you know what I close my eyes I say cancel and
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I visceral eyes and visualize what it is I
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want where it is I’m going I have it already you know if it’s like
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I I don’t know something with move Joy because I’m building this out and and somebody says me oh you might not be
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able to do that that might be I close my eyes and I connect it don’t get into the
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fear here don’t get it to the negativity I and I feel that the call already came
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that I’m the deal’s done and I feel it and like it’s done the deal is done and
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I say how does my body feel when I’m going to hear that news and I use that technique I use that
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technique to connect to that you know for my health for friends such good
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advice I hope everybody heard that really good advice you know we have to have a
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toolbox for our emotions totally and for our mind like there really has to be
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mind Fitness you know I know for years everybody’s been talking about mental health mental health mental health but
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it’s like put in this box but what is the Mind Fitness that we
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can do to literally shift certain things because you know it’s your thoughts it
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starts with your thoughts totally everything thing starts with 100% 100% I mean I I actually used to
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say 80% of winning uh started before you walked into a room negotiating and then I
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interviewed Bob Proctor and he corrected me on my own podcast and and he said no
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it’s 100% I love that and I said you know what you’re right so I’ve I now stand
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corrected it’s 100% before you you know when people always ask me they want to talk about Wellness yeah so for being at
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Wellness like and I say
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well Wellness starts between your ears W yeah so true because it really does like
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if you are working out two hours a day and eating I don’t care if you’re eating
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paleo or keto or vegetarian whatever and you were you know drinking your ounces
59:25
of water and you’re getting your eight hour sleep and you’re cold plunging and you’re doing infrared SAA and you’re
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doing your you know 100 supplements and you’re doing all the things the biohacking that everyone’s doing and
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your thoughts are fear-based and worry based and control based and shame
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based you’re never going to be well never going to be well you’re going to have an autoimmune disease and you’re
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going to get cancer and you’re going to drop over of a heart attack to be well never going to be well and it’s so funny
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because so many people are spending I watch it all the time oh I did my you
1:00:04
know I I you know you know four hours a week in the infrared sauna and I’m up to five
1:00:12
minutes in the cold plunge and I’m my diet am I this and I but I listen to the
1:00:19
fear and the victim mentality or whatever it is I’m just like like I would rather see like eat a
1:00:27
piece of cheese and have a healthier mind like it’s just really
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interesting so how can they learn more about move jooy about you well first of all move jooy
1:00:40
dolie you can get on the um on our website you can sign up for a
1:00:47
complimentary week um so great everybody needs to do that than right away yeah I
1:00:56
I you know it puts a smile on my face because it works it does it really works
1:01:03
and I know people really need it because people are really stressed out waked out
1:01:09
you know um and media media loves to make us afraid you know my friend’s a
1:01:17
journalist she always says they always say blood cells you know the bloodier the story
1:01:22
The more views we’re going to get the more views we get the more advertising we get well that’s how you know that’s
1:01:29
how Instagram is now they just want to you know just constantly hit us with all
1:01:36
of that to scare us into buying their products and doing this or you know like
1:01:44
it’s bombarding our nervous systems it’s bombarding us and more and more people we see it all the time now right yeah I
1:01:52
mean we’ve had amazing we’ve had I have some women that have fibromyalgia
1:01:57
that have Lupus and every time they go to the doctor and now they’re like your blood
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Works never look this good so all of you go to mojoy dolie get your free week
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thank you and you can follow um her at Lavinia
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Joy I mean or mojoy life or mojoy doli
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okay and is there anything else you wanted to share or thank you yeah keep doing what you’re doing because there’s
1:02:33
a lot of um heartache around people that are dealing with narcissist so to be
1:02:42
able to take that out and bring it forth because people haven’t been talking about this yeah so
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yeah I am inspired by what you do thank you well this has been fantastic and I
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