5 Insane Things Narcissists Do Behind Your Back in Secret

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did you ever wonder what a narcissist is
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doing when you were not with them when
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they’re like by themselves yeah it’s not
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good I’m going to go through that with
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you right now believe me I know because
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what happens in darkness always ends up
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coming to the light and it’s usually
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under cross-examination so I’m going to
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tell you right
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now hey there I’m Rebecca on your trusty
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Juicy content if you are wondering what
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a narcissist is doing when they’re by
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themselves no they’re not baking you
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cookies or writing you love letters no
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that’s not what they’re doing
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unfortunately they’re known for their
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manipulative and controlling behavior
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and it’s not better when they’re by
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themselves when they think no one’s
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watching they’re up to worse worse
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Behavior as I’m sure you can imagine one
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of the things they’re doing is some
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version of cheating it might be just
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flat out cheating it might be on some
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app trolling for whatever it might be
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porn it might be reaching out to Old
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exes looking at stuff that they’re not
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supposed to but it’s it’s boosting their
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ego it’s maybe it’s securing future
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Supply it’s creating jealousy for you
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confusion in their current relationship
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if you notice them suddenly looking a
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little better maybe not as interested in
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you trying to get you to think that oh
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you know somebody else wants me and not
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just you it might be a red flag so don’t
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be surprised if all of a sudden they
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start looking more buff or they’re they
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get their teeth done or their boobs done
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or whatever it is they may be you know
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looking for a backup Supply because they
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want to make sure they’re never going to
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be alone okay they like getting that
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admiration that’s probably what’s going
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on and if you’ve seen it let me know say
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I’ve I’ve seen it in the comments the
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next one is planting spy wear tracking
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and hacking on your stuff putting a a
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tracker on your car putting spyware on
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your computer putting spyware on your
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phone make sure you’re changing your
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passwords regularly change your
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passwords to your logins if you’re
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suspecting unusual activity on your
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devices such as your apps when you’re
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opening them if you notice your battery
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draining quickly it could be due to
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spyware always use strong passwords and
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check your devices regularly for
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unauthorized software consider using
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neti.ee in your car it’s usually up
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under the wheel in the wheel well inside
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the wheel have your car professionally
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checked though for devices if you
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suspect foul play sometimes they have to
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put it like up on a like a thing that
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they can look up underneath if you’re
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suspecting like a car cuz that’s another
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thing they do is they will put a tracker
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on your car I mean I have seen them put
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trackers on cars and then they put it on
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their app and they’re watching wherever
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it is that you’re driving so you know
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it’s like it just gives them a little
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sense of control they enjoy that oh
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there they are that’s where they’re
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going they like to follow you that’s one
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of the things that they do if you guys
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have seen this if you guys have
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experienced that experience this let me
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know I would love to know in the
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comments the kinds of things that you’ve
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seen I mean I’ve seen people put video
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cameras like up in in the house where
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they’re watching them when they’re at
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home the next thing is that they line up
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flying monkeys and start smear campaigns
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they’re always a step ahead in their
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manipulative games they might start the
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six month months before any kind of
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discard phase people will start this oh
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you know I’m so concerned about Susie
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and her drinking just worried about her
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I’m just concerned you know she had a
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little too much she’s just so stressed
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lately she’s drinking a lot around the
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kids and just concerned you know I call
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the covert narcissist the Pearl Grabbers
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they’re just oh just worried just
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worried you know and then six months
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later it’s oh you know Susie’s an
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alcoholic you know and and Susie
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probably doesn’t have any problem with
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alcohol at all or if she does drink more
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than usual it’s because you know narc
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over there is probably giving her stress
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they do this and then oh well you’re
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going to testify against her now aren’t
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you I’ve been telling you that she has a
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problem this is what they do but they
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start the smear campaign they start
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seeding it they start dropping the hints
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like way before you even realize that
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there’s an issue but they act like
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they’re smearing in terms of care a lot
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of times if you’re hearing strange
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rumors about yourself where you start
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noticing friends acting differently
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toward you it could be a narcissist
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smear campaign going on just stay calm
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don’t engage don’t act you know like
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anything just oh that’s interesting H
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don’t engage you focus on maintaining
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your integrity and your truth you just
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stay calm don’t go there just start
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documenting I call your documentation
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when they act like that that’s your gift
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that’s your gift because you’re just
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writing it down don’t say anything about
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it you just write it down and then the
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next thing is that they start hacking
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into your phone they start hacking into
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your computer hacking into your phone I
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mean I’ve seen this before I’ve seen
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crazy things things were like if they’re
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really pretty good like I’ve seen things
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disappear off of people’s phones it’s
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insane but a lot of times it’s just
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because people haven’t changed their
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passwords or changed um their logins so
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you really need to change information so
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that they can’t access your personal
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information you don’t want them reading
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your messages you don’t want them
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monitoring your activities so if you
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notice that your email or your social
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media has been accessed with without
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your permission or you you receive a
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password reset notification that you
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didn’t initiate it’s probably a sign
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that somebody’s trying to hack into your
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device change your password immediately
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make sure you have multiactor authority
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on it so MFA so that it has to come to
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your phone for added security I would
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love to know if you guys have seen this
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if you guys have experienced any of
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these unsettling behaviors from a
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narcissist how did you handle it share
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it in the stories below your experiences
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will help other people going through
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similar situations right they sneak
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around they look at stuff they cheat
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they lie they start lining up their
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flying monkeys they’re going through
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your stuff that’s another thing that
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they do when they’re alone they go
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through your stuff they they look for
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evidence of what you’re doing if you
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you to watch is how to shut down a
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narcissist smear campaign that will help
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you tremendously because then you won’t
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feel so triggered you won’t feel so like
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pulled in sucked in drawn in and down in
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the mud with them right you don’t want
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to do that you want to stay up here
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while they’re down here so go watch that
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video next and just remember that you
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were born for more you’re born for
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greatness they’re here you’re there
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right so you stay there and I will see
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you in that next video remember today is
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