Narcissists: Are They Stupid or Clever?
Deciphering whether or not narcissists are stupid or smart is a complicated task. A psychologist friend, who has worked with lots of narcissists and survivors of narcissistic abuse, actually posed this question to me during a dinner once. I wasn’t sure how to answer....
Why Narcissists Have to Destroy You When Leaving You
Regardless of whether you are the one who is discarding the narcissist or they are discarding you, they will do everything they can to destroy you. Narcissists not only lack empathy but also lack an inner sense of self. They are the most insecure people on the planet...
How to Truth Bomb a Love Bomber: 7 Truth Bombs to Use When You Get Love Bombed
“That sounds too good to be true.” “I’ve heard that promise before.” “That promise would be impossible to keep.” “I don’t believe you.” (Or, “I will believe you when I see how you act.”) “This feels like love bombing.” “I don’t trust words anymore; I trust actions.”...
Gifts that are Red Flags that you are Dealing with a Narcissist
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you will definitely receive a gift from them. During the love bombing phase of a narcissistic relationship, you can expect to be showered in gifts of all sorts. The narcissist will be thoughtful, kind, and generous in...
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist During the Holidays
“Co” anything with a narcissist is kind of a misnomer. Especially if you’re no longer in a relationship with a narcissist – collaborating, cooperating- anything that requires the narcissist working with another person is going to seem impossible. Co-Parenting is...
Shut Down The Narcissist’s Smear Campaign
The narcissist’s smear campaign nearly always occurs right before or during the discard phase. If you are in the discard phase of a narcissistic relationship and want to prepare for what is yet to come or are in the midst of a full-blown smear campaign, you’re...
What Narcissists Cannot Control
Narcissists spend an inordinate amount of time trying to control everything and everyone around them so that they can maintain a steady flow of narcissistic supply. Not only do they need control to obtain narcissistic supply – they also get narcissistic supply...
The Most Overlooked Symptom of Narcissism
Narcissism is characterized by some of the worst personality traits that exist. When you think about narcissism or the narcissist in your life, there are several traits that usually come to mind. I want to go through them with you but then also talk about the most...